We live in a world where value to what one does is given way more than the person herself. We do things we love but sometimes the question arises, is it useful? according to today’s standards if it doesn’t look good on the resume its not worth doing. We re always trying to do stuff which will either add some value to our resume or make us popular in our circle. If the thing we do fails to garner some positive attention or appreciation from others we slowly stop doing it. It happened with me too,I learned playing the guitar a bit but then as i didn’t have an opportunity to play it outside my house slowly i stopped practising it and now i have stopped playing it altogether. I started this blog thinking that my thoughts would be read and appreciated but after  eight months i lost interest seeing no feedback. But why is it that we should do all things for the sake of appreciation from others, why don’t we do things because we love doing them and no other reason?

Acknowledgment from others about our work should be a factor motivating us,but it shouldn’t be the whole reason why we do it. We should liberate ourselves from the mindset of ” I HOPE THEY LIKE IT”,  we should do things purely because we love it. As we start working having a liberated mindset devoid of the worries about opinions people have, we will see that our work will get better not only that we would start loving life even more,worrying less about external rewards and enjoying the happiness produced on the inside…….


Not so perfect life,eh!

  • a light-hearted banter with friends
  • singing out aloud mindlessly
  • taking all kinds of weirdo selfies with tongue sticking out
  • mindless wandering in the streets
  • doing nothing all day but listen to our favorite songs and may be even dancing to it
  • not worrying about tomorrow but just enjoying the present with no plans waiting to be executed
  • playing with a cute little baby and making her laugh

We live in a world of perfection, we want all things to be prim proper and precise. we want the plans to turn out as expected. we live in the world where perfect selfies, number of likes to them,the number of followers in twitter or insta is very important. we see the successful and get inspired we see the popular people and try to imitate them,if not, then vouch for atleast half the popularity they have,i admit having feelings of unimportance sometimes as i dwell on the fact that may be i dont have as many likes i wanted or as many followers. trying hard and giving all we still lose sometimes or sometimes the success we have doesnt seem sufficient, we always want BIGGER, BETTER. well nothing wrong in it except that in this quest of bigger, better and perfect we sometimes lose the contentment we have. we turn kind of blind to all the good things we have for achieving the better ones.

we all have experienced or done the list i have mentioned above and have found happiness and freedom in it even though we weren’t doing something ‘important’. in such moments we realize that our life is not made just for achievements it is made for more! today as we look in media , all we can find is that we are often given such high standards to maintain that all almost all of us fall short of achieving it.

have a beautiful smile? well worry about the marks on your face!

you have done your degree? well the college you went wasnt the best!

you have the bestest budies in the world?hey they dont match up to the ones shown on tv or in movies!(coz they always seem to be in bestest avatars and always have money for weekend getaways and are the wittiest too :P)

thats how eveything around us discourages us.but we need to know that wherever we are we have the best life. We should learn to be content with our life and out of that contentment work hard,things will turn better but even through the process you we would have had joy and peace. we can never shun  the voices around us but we can definitely turn deaf ears to them,just as we did with our parents and teachers when we were being lectured 😉

so learn to live life not worrying about the likes and the followers or the standards of the media, all of us have this gift called life given by GOD not to walk through it frustratingly but enjoying every moment of it coz life gets better… if we are faithful in small things we have we would be trusted with the big things too.







In this wonderful Christmas season all we can think of is lovely weather (though not in Chennai),new clothes,cookies and cakes,visit from relatives,joy all over the place and the best,our gifts.

  Gifting is to show how much we love the other person, generally saying we buy more precious gifts for our family and closest friends…those who mean a lot to us and for whom we don’t mind spending a lot. That means we can easily decipher a person’s fondness for us based on the gift they give us or they amount of time they spend with us and for us.

 The bestest Christmas gift of all was gifted to us 2000 years ago. Isn’t it wonderful that the person whose birthday we celebrate is THE GIFT HIMSELF. ”For GOD so loved the world that HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON,so that whoever believes in HIM shall not perish but have an everlasting life.” 

We often think what our worth is,are we really worthy?Do we really matter? In this world of billions are we really important? The answer is a big YES. JESUS came for you and me. He gifted HIMSELF to us for our everlasting life.HE is the WAY,THE TRUTH AND LIFE. The way for salvation,redemption from our sins, abundant joy and happiness is in HIM.

So as we know JESUS himself is our gift we know for sure GOD values us a lot,more than anything…that He even sacrificed HIS ONLY SON for us.So in this joyful Christmas season let us all be reminded not only of gifting and getting gifts but also of THE GREATEST GIFT OF ALL we received.God loves you crazily,He is waiting for you just to show you His love.




gods-unconditional-love         when i fail sometimes to do certain things i expect myself to do pretty easily……i just cant believe it!!!!!…….i think we all have such incidences every now and then,when we fail our own expectations. This morning as i was getting my scooty ready to go out i kinda messed up and ended hitting it to a wall. Well nothing happened on the outside what happened was i just couldn’t believe myself…i was frantic… I was boiling with anger at my inability to handle my own scooty!!!!! My mom was like, its alright you drive pretty well,it doesn’t happen all times right,so chill and let it go. But what i did for the next one hour was to dig out every imperfection i know i have and was analyzing myself in a pretty lousy way.

That’s when it hit me!!!! even though i read bible i think its truths hit me in a time i least expect them to. I analysed myself and fixed my worth on my ability or to be more correct, ‘my perceived ability to do things’. That’s when i realized that we ourselves don’t  give value to us…but knowing all our weaknesses and our shortcomings in a very crystal clear manner GOD still loves us and adores us. We are the apple of HIS eye..

So instead of whining at my shortcomings i thought i would just ponder on the fact that HE LOVES ME AND YOU TOO UNCONDITIONALLY… and nothing in this world or whatever you do is ever gonna make Him hate you….He trust me and has given me a responsibility. He very well knows that i would falter many times but as a patient father He overlooks everything i do and helps me in every step… and as Paul says when we are weak HE is strong… let us look unto our creator draw strength from Him in our weakness and be confident in every step of ours even when we falter that HE LOVES US NO MATTER WHAT..





   I always have this disease of comparing myself with others. I see a prettier girl and start thinking how bad looking i am or that person who is doing well in their job and think about my not so important or not so happening life,i envy the cooool people,the hot ones,i guess almost everyone. Don’t know about you but i fight envy like on a daily basis. A lot of people say envy comes because you are not self confident and happy with yourself and in your situation, you are not thankful…..all that is true…absolutely true.

           But i feel most importantly we envy because we don’t trust God, if we can trust HIM enough that we know whatever we have, wherever He has placed us,however we are created,its all His will.He wouldn’t have placed us where we are, if He wouldn’t have felt that we are best for the life we have,that we could take the pressures ,the sorrows ,the deficits that will come in our life.

So instead of complaining,comparing and feeling low and unworthy…we should take pride that the sovereign God has entitled some 80-100 years in our hands to live for Him and carry out His plans in us and in other’s life through us. We are here for a mission…. A GOD GIVEN MISSION. All of us are worth something in His eyes,HE gave His life for and has bought us with a price….



A lot of times in our life we just feel like that we aren’t good enough or that we don’t fit in with the cool people. I have the feeling a lot of times.Amidst all our inferiority we feel we have,the things we lack,we should always remember that we are MADE IN THE IMAGE OF GOD, and He loves us abundantly. We might feel not absolutely accepted by anyone but we can rest assured in the love of God. The proof of His love He gave us on the cross where he died for us,bore the punishment we deserved, bore the guilt and the shame, so that we can have life eternal and have His righteousness.

Never look down upon yourself and others for that matter. God esteems you highly, He has given us all a particular gift, a particular life,while we may feel that our lives as compared to some others is not that good but always remember that God has given you that particular setting because he knows you can do your best there,HE TRUSTS YOU. What HE has entrusted you is important while it might not seem that way outwardly He knew you can do your best in what He has given you.

When we think of our lives this way and try to be content in it, we will find joy bubbling in our hearts out of our faith that our God has the perfect plans for us wherever,in whatever state we are in. Our failures, our weaknesses,our fears, all can be used by our God. There is nothing In your life which God cannot use for His Glory. He used the cross the most despicable punishment for the salvation of the world and today we honor it and see it as a symbol which shows OUR VICTORY IN CHRIST,OUR REDEMPTION THROUGH HIS SACRIFICE.

ALL THINGS( our failures,weaknesses,fears,embarrassments….everything) WORK TOGETHER FOR GOOD,FOR THOSE WHOSE WHO BELIEVE IN CHRIST.(romans 8:28)


Ever felt like what you are doing is because you are afraid of what others may think if you do it differently? We all feel at least once in our lives that what we are doing or saying or wearing or even sometimes thinking is because we don’t want to offend others around us. By all means we should try to be at peace with people but what if the diplomacy you are showing,the adjustments you are making is just making people think that you would oblige to whatever they say and that they kinda have a right to tell you what you should do according to them. It happened with me, i am generally a person who does not let others determine what i should do, i always try to do things i am comfortable doing and as long as i am ok with it i don’t mind what others would say. Recently i noticed that these days others are actually coming up to me saying my hairstyle is not good (in their opinion) and tell me to change it or they themselves try to do it! Its just one small thing, i noticed changes in the way i dress, accessorize, even think! I kept hearing my friends about how they think one should dress, if even a bit deviation is found they tag the person ‘not so good character’. I slowly started accepting their opinion as my own, but thank God i soon realized my folly.

Don’t let people dictate you, do according to what your conscience says is right. Well what i am saying is not to rebel and do not so right things just because you think it’s alright. What i am saying is don’t lose yourselves in the crowd. Every one is unique, even our fingerprints are different. God has given each one of us a unique life, talents,personality and a unique plan. Don’t lose yourself in this age of herd mentality and blind following.

If you like singing let no one stop you from doing it, if your dream is to be painter, a writer do it don’t let the world stop you. If you are a strong believer of God don’t let those who don’t believe in Him tell you HE doesn’t exist. If you want to be different don’t look around and feel that being different might isolate you,In fact all the leaders today we have is because they chose to follow their heart and work hard for it.I am a life science student but my passion is psychology, after joining this course i discovered what i really wanted to do, so now i am determined that my post graduation and my research will be in psychology. I have heard people tell me that that they think its a foolish decision and i better continue in the field i am in, That i must have decided before i joined the course. I know that i made a mistake, but just because i made one doesn’t imply that i should repeat  it my whole lifetime by continuing in the field i don’t have my heart in. If you have something in your heart you might have done something else and might be regretting it but always remember ”THERE ARE ALWAYS SECOND OR EVEN THIRD CHANCES”.

If we always live in the fear of what others may think, which they will irrespective of what you do, you might never live the life you wanted, so stop minding them. Its not them who is going to your life, you are going to live your life and fulfill the plan God has for you and live the dream He has placed in your heart, go for it, dont you mind them coz tomorrow when you succeed they will mind you. It written in bible that one must guard her/his heart as it is the wellspring of life, so guard your heart, do what God has placed in it. And i pray as Jesus has promised that HE WILL GIVE US PEACE, NOT A PEACE AS THE WORLD GIVES  which is mostly not so deep and true, but A PEACE WHICH MAKES YOU CONFIDENT AND FEARLESS(john 14:27)


fear of people, is helping someone in great need but is taking you for granted right? ,should we bring out our talents in front of the world or hide it?…… along to know what i think is right…might give you some answers as well..

never stop helping
never stop helping

Reluctance, it is a big hindrance in our lives.Before doing anything new, we mostly try to avoid doing it as we have a slight if not aversion, then fear to do it.But i feel the most binding thing in our lives is not fear of doing something new and failing but what others might think of us.We always try to be popular among our peers and the people above us, its nothing wrong,but sometimes in order to be good and acceptable in other’s eyes we forget to do what we really want to.Sometimes the thing we do out of benevolence and good will for someone is taken for granted and over a period of time the help is taken as a right, some cases we can confront the beneficiary and tell them their attitude is hurting us but at other times we might not be able to do so, what then is the right path. Should we continue to help, especially if the person actually is in great need or should we turn around and refuse to help anymore? all these things are revolving in my head.

Being in college is fun and at the same time sometimes confusing.We try to find our ground, try to fit in, make an image of ours. Amidst all of it i feel that some where down the line in order to fit in, to satisfy others, in order to avoid any conflict we end up doing what others expect us to do, suppressing our desires and wishes. I am considered a studious nerd, who knows all answers, is always helpful to others and even lecturers have started to take my assistance in some works. It all seems very good, even i also thought, but slowly i started seeing people’s attitude towards me, i am always expected to have all the answers, be always ready with the work assigned to me, and i assure you the work i am talking about is not homework but extra work for the lecturer who has vision problems gives me. At first i did the work without any problem as i thought that helping her is my responsibility as a student, but soon she became burdensome, all her work is done by me now. I always think of telling her how i feel, but then stop as i feel that she is disabled and hurting her with my words would not be good.

I asked my dad what to do.Instead of saying that i should stop doing any work for her, he told me to consider all the problems she might be facing and continue helping her whole heartedly. At first i hated to hear it but pondering on it, it seems true. I am helping her because she truly needs help even though she might not realize that her attitude is not correct. Some times situations are like that, we should not stop doing good just because we feel people are not appreciating it. Well it might not be true at all times, sometimes we need confrontation other times we need to be understanding and consider all that the person in front of us is going through.

I think others’ attitude should not change the good in us or should not stop us from doing good. Sometimes people are truly selfish and at such times we definitely need to stop being a puppet in their hands. Sometimes the person in front of you is helpless and at such times instead of loathing them and thinking of them as inferiors to us we should help by all means and make the world a slightly better place for them.



Happiness or despair it’s all in us. We always tell that it’s that annoying or irresponsible person who is making us feel down or that tough situation. But none of this can bog us down,can make us feel depressed until we allow them to. Recently while doing a class presentation as a group, i found out that one of my group members had not shown up,not only that, the responsibility, the part i had given her to do she didn’t do it properly she did it just for the sake of it. My mind was already upset due a news article i had read,the picture of a toddler washed ashore totally shook me,i was brought to tears, as i went to college expecting something good to happen i got to know about my ‘missing’ group partner and saw her work.  I was totally upset with anger already inside, i began to show it outside as well, my friends started asking me what was wrong as i wasn’t in my usual bubbly demeanor,i had no explanation. As the day progressed i diverted myself and started feeling better. In this i realized that if we give the reins of our happiness and calmness in the hands of our situations, other people or even our mood we will start to feel more sad than we need to,every small thing will start to feel irritating, every small problem will overwhelm us. The secret is to remind ourselves that its in us to keep us happy,not in others,not in our situations. Starting our day with a heart of thankfulness and gratitude for our lives and all that God has given us, and telling ourselves that its gonna be a happy no matter what helps.

While facing our past mistakes our failures we always think it would be better if we could go back in time and change our reaction, or the decision we made. Its not possible but we keep ourselves bound to our past way more than we should sometimes more than we like it, even i struggle with it, but i have learnt one thing we all know this but don’t exactly accept it as soon. The past is gone we can never change it, even God cant change it, but what we can do is set our sails high again and jump into the sea. Life is so much more, it is up to us to keep ourselves happy. No one can change our mood, no one can make us feel better, we are the ones who create either happiness or sadness.

Stop looking outside, keep your emotions aside if they overwhelm you and analyse each problem as it comes, logically, don’t take your past mistakes as a sign of your inability,  always be hopeful for the future, but in all this stay focused and happy in your present, its a gift God has given us to enjoy, so many people would have liked to see this day but were not able to.