Reluctance, it is a big hindrance in our lives.Before doing anything new, we mostly try to avoid doing it as we have a slight if not aversion, then fear to do it.But i feel the most binding thing in our lives is not fear of doing something new and failing but what others might think of us.We always try to be popular among our peers and the people above us, its nothing wrong,but sometimes in order to be good and acceptable in other’s eyes we forget to do what we really want to.Sometimes the thing we do out of benevolence and good will for someone is taken for granted and over a period of time the help is taken as a right, some cases we can confront the beneficiary and tell them their attitude is hurting us but at other times we might not be able to do so, what then is the right path. Should we continue to help, especially if the person actually is in great need or should we turn around and refuse to help anymore? all these things are revolving in my head.
Being in college is fun and at the same time sometimes confusing.We try to find our ground, try to fit in, make an image of ours. Amidst all of it i feel that some where down the line in order to fit in, to satisfy others, in order to avoid any conflict we end up doing what others expect us to do, suppressing our desires and wishes. I am considered a studious nerd, who knows all answers, is always helpful to others and even lecturers have started to take my assistance in some works. It all seems very good, even i also thought, but slowly i started seeing people’s attitude towards me, i am always expected to have all the answers, be always ready with the work assigned to me, and i assure you the work i am talking about is not homework but extra work for the lecturer who has vision problems gives me. At first i did the work without any problem as i thought that helping her is my responsibility as a student, but soon she became burdensome, all her work is done by me now. I always think of telling her how i feel, but then stop as i feel that she is disabled and hurting her with my words would not be good.
I asked my dad what to do.Instead of saying that i should stop doing any work for her, he told me to consider all the problems she might be facing and continue helping her whole heartedly. At first i hated to hear it but pondering on it, it seems true. I am helping her because she truly needs help even though she might not realize that her attitude is not correct. Some times situations are like that, we should not stop doing good just because we feel people are not appreciating it. Well it might not be true at all times, sometimes we need confrontation other times we need to be understanding and consider all that the person in front of us is going through.
I think others’ attitude should not change the good in us or should not stop us from doing good. Sometimes people are truly selfish and at such times we definitely need to stop being a puppet in their hands. Sometimes the person in front of you is helpless and at such times instead of loathing them and thinking of them as inferiors to us we should help by all means and make the world a slightly better place for them.